Hi. Welcome to my website. My name is Rebecca. I’m thirty-two years old, single and an executive in a large company. I would love to tell you that I wake up at six o’clock every morning, jump out of bed with a smile on my face and ready to tackle the day. But the truth is I usually wake up a cranky person who would like to crawl back in bed for a few more hours. I have found that if I spend the first few minutes of every day doing something that is motivating to me, it changes my attitude even quicker than a cup of coffee! I have some motivational books that I enjoy reading small excerpts out of. I receive motivational quotes in my email. I also enjoy meditation. I am going share more about motivational techniques. I hope you find it to be helpful.
Parenting a special needs child when you have a mate who can help is hard enough. Parenting that same child as a single parent can cause you to spin out, burn out, and crash in a downward spiral. You have to know when to ask for help, and you have to figure out how to get help. As a single parent of a child with autism, here are some resources that can help:
Find Someone You Trust to Give You a Few Hours Off
This is the most difficult thing a single parent with an autistic child can do: entrust your child to someone else's care for a few hours. However, you absolutely have to do this. If you do not get a break at least once a week, you cannot keep it together to manage your child's many challenges and demands. If family and friends cannot and will not help, ask your child's support team at school for someone who is willing to spend time with your child. It might be a long-shot, but it's better than having a nervous breakdown.
Seek out Help from NAMI
NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness, is not just about helping those with mental illnesses; it's also about helping parents who feel like they are losing their marbles and need some help coping with their situations. NAMI provides autism spectrum resources, including programs where parents of kids with autism can come together and talk about what is bothering them; the children are taken into a playroom and provided with lots of special activities during this time. It may seem like an awkward way to get a break, but you may feel relieved when you hear some of the other parents' stories about their kids.
Apply for a Long-Term Care Waiver from Your County's Department of Social Services
For children with special needs, which includes children with autism, there are services provided by your state and county. The long-term care waiver addresses the long-term care of your child as he/she heads for adulthood. If the challenges you face are extreme enough, and your child is unable to function on the same level as his/her peers, you may qualify for the waiver. The waiver states that the state's health insurance plan Medicaid (Medical in California) will pay for all medical care and special services needed, which includes respite care for you and for your child.Share
11 May 2018